Unfolding The Truth About Love

Love is in the air as Valentines Day is fast approaching. Today, let’s dig deeper about the word Love.

What love myths exist and what is the truth about love? All of us would have some kind of experience with love. Either we have been in love, or we have been loved by somebody, or both. It is part of life.

When I was growing up, I started to wonder: What is love? Is it just a fuzzy feeling or more than that? Once you fall in love with the “perfect someone”, is it happily ever after?

Maybe you have had similar questions going through your mind. I invite you to join me in my journey to discover what is the Truth About Love.

Love Myths: Love is based on feelings.

We often associate love with feelings. Some people say it’s a fuzzy feeling inside you that causes you to keep thinking about someone. Every time you see that someone your heart beat increases and you start to get cold sweat and shivers. But the problem I found with this explanation is that the fuzzy feeling always fades away, not only from my own experience, but everyone I knew had the same experience.

The initial excitement will always fade as time goes by and when there is predictability and security in the relationship. And when two people start to get to know one another, because of our different backgrounds and experiences, there are bound to be misunderstandings and quarrels.

During these times of argument and disagreement, is there no love between a couple? And the other problem I had was that how about love between children and their parents or grandparents? Do we have that kind of fuzzy feeling toward our elders? Does that mean we do not love them?

The Truth About Love: Love is a choice, a commitment and a command.

I found that love is actually a choice, more than a feeling. This means that we can choose to love somebody even if they do not love us back, we can choose to care for someone even though they have not done anything deserving, we can choose to love and provide for people we don’t even know halfway across the world, and we can even choose to love our enemies.

Love is also a commitment, which means that in good or bad times, in happy or sad times, we choose to love and do good to the person we are committed to. Many marriages have failed because the wife and husband have quarreled so much and have so many disagreements they say there are no more feelings of love between them anymore and hence there is no point for them to remain married.

This changes when a couple view their love toward each other as a commitment and choice to love each other no matter what happens, to always care and support each other, to listen each other and think the best of each other, and grow old together, their commitment is for life. How many people actually understand and follow through their wedding vows when they say “till death do us part”?

Facts about Love:

Love is a journey.

Come explore life with me. Hold my hand along the way. We’ll see what we see, we’ll laugh, we’ll cry, we’ll be together as we travel the same road. Side by side the entire time. The matters of the world we’ll push aside. What simply matters is you to me.

Love is a process.

As my love for you grows, absorb it. Welcome it. I am hopeful you will reciprocate it. I want to know everything about you. Share with me. Trust in me. Together we can move mountains.

Love is unique.

Just as you are one in a million, so is our love for each other. How this happened is not the matter at hand. What simply matters is you to me. I cherish your differences and walk proudly with you, knowing you get me. And I get you.

Love is a treasure.

All the wealth in the world means nothing to me. What simply matters is the richness your love brings to my body and soul. What simply matters is you to me. With you by my side, I’m the richest man in the world.

True love hears what is not spoken and understands what is not explained, for love doesn’t work in the mouth, nor in the mind. But in the heart.