Joy Adalia
A woman who accidentally found her husband in gay dating app Grindr was distraught over the discovery, especially after she realized it really was him on the photo and he was looking for hook ups.
She turns to a parenting forum site for help, asking other moms what they would have done if they were in her shoes. The predicament is crazy, considering she never had an inkling her husband was gay and because they had been married for years.
“Hello. Hands shaking. Today I found my DH on Grindr.Without a doubt it is him. Posing in our ensuite bathroom. Confronted him. Says it is not him but refuses to let me see his phone. He is refusing to talk to me. Two children. 7 and 10. I am 43. Dont know what to do. Please some advice.”
They have two kids, ages 7 and 10. These little ones will be surely affected when the truth comes out, when they realize their dad is gay, and when their parents end up getting a divorce. Thus, we understand how the mother feels.
Did she try to ask her husband about the situation? Well, she actually did because part of her could not believe it was him. He vehemently denies it was him despite the picture clearly showing him in their ensuite bathroom. Also, he would not let him check his phone.
Desperate for answers, she downloaded the app on her phone as well. There, she was even more dismayed by what she found out about her husband’s profile and activities on the app site.
Her problems do not stop there because even if she wanted to divorce him, she does not have enough funds to hire a lawyer. Plus, she does not want to embarrass her kids and make a lot of trouble for her husband.
The dilemma is huge but what else could she do. If you were in her shoes, would you leave your husband or would you confront him and make him stop his activities on Grindr? What else would you do?
If I were on her shoes I would rather confront my husband and ask him if he wanted a divorce but if he refuses then demand that he quit doing these stuffs to make our marriage work.
If she is insanely in love with her husband but unfortunately her husband refuses quit doing these stuff well she just have to accept the fact that her husband is gay.
Entrapment. Make a profile. Rent a room. Ask him to meet you there. Ask his parents to wait with you in the room. Ask him to come in and bam!
We can stay togethee but not in bed. 😉
The best way is to talk to him in a manner tht is not very confronting. marrying u and ahving kids with you might have given him an escape or on a positive side, trying to correct or straighten himself from his gayness. I guess, as much as he would like to live a normal life of being a man with you, the temptation of the other side is very difficult to fight. So get to the roots as to why, since when, and all other questions, get into a calm conversation that will make him feel u are there to listen and will try to understand why..because im sure this is not easy for him too..be his friend too aside from being his wife as well..
If i were in the shoe. I will confront him with my patience and understanding manner. Because f i would stop him on what is he doin. What would I get? Nothing and our relationship will not work. And i will divorce him but he must be responsible for the children.
Having sex with another Man does not make a person Gay, or even Bi-sexual……There are many Men who have sex with Men who are perfectly straight.
I strongly disagree the fact that you are married to a woman for years why should you engage homosexual activity?? It is definite that you are attracted to a man you have erotic fantasies behind your mind doing such act to a man- that makes you gay.. The bottomline is you’re a man having sex with a man and that’s a gay thing.