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Not yet over with your ex? Do you think you really have thousand words to say but holding back to say it? Hmm, why not write a letter that you won’t ever send to him. Try and see if it will ease the pain.
This text is shared and posted. Who knows this might save you after learning the secret towards a happy and stress-free relationship.
Dear Ex,
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I wouldn’t ask how you are doing. This is because I know and read some updates about your status plus the fact that I can get updates from your parents and sister through their FBs. You see, damn we’re all connected.
I kept you on my block list for months. In those months, it eased the pain. This was heplful.
Later, I found myself “okay” which meant I’m good to see you as my friend.. No, that’s wrong. Hmm.I’m good to see your FB posts and feel single cent of bitterness no more.
So what I did is usual for anyone. (a little unsure if this happened to anyone.) I removed you from harm-me-not box. Unsuprisingly I hit the “add friend” button to see updates about you.Here I was. I actually end up complementing myself. “This is good, A. You do it. This is what ex-GF does when she completely get over with BF.”
Do it because portion of me says, “Ah, this person who’ve been part of my being cannot easily be forgotten and I don’t do this to stalk him but to feel connected with him as a simple FRIEND.”
But these are all pure lies. Things changed again. I’ve been spying your account since you accepted my friend’s request. I’m still madly deeply badly falling for you. Sometimes, I feel not writing this for you. Why? because I believe nothing will change and I’m just lying to myself that everything will fall into place. By which I mean, you still have feelings for me.
When I say I love you. I really do. And when I say it, I put the rose’s thorn against my heart. Or maybe not a pointed needle but like a hand pushing hard on my chest until I feel hard to breathe.
Does it sound mellow? Yes it is. But that is how I can actually describe my feeling, or if not, it’s close to what I imagine.
The shift has been a wild, crazy journey! There’s many things I want to say. But I’m still gripping my hand, biting my lips upside down. I wanna blurt it out.
Yes,I can. No one stopping me here. I want to start in thanking you for all the good deeds you made for me.
You took me in car when going home very late at night to make sure I’m home safe.
You gave me a cake. A “yema” cake that you brought early in the morning because you went here last night but the gate is closed and when you arrived early to give your edible present you still didn’t see me. Nevertheless, you’re the best thing in the morning!
You keep me warm when I feel very cold. Hold me tight like there’s no tomorrow. You gaze upon me like there’s nothing to fear. You say you’re there and promise not to leave me.
After finishing your work, here you were proud to offer your own version of pasta. The spice juices of it, hmmm. Oh I so loved it. You know I hate hot and spicy flavor but the idea that you cooked it for me lest did I appreciate your E for effort.
I’m so glad to remember these things. You’re incredibly awesome. Magnificently gorgeous. But I guess I should stop saying these after this line.
In reality, break-up like this is curable. Who says no? People change either for best or worst. It’s a matter of time.
I don’t want to say negative about you. I’ve been training myself to carry a positive outlook and this is one of the bravest attempts of positiveness.
I claim that you will work on getting a good fortune. Stabilize your pictureseque goals enough. Our relationship did not last as a couple. But I guess it’s the best far as ever.
I’m not writing this because I want to regain “US”. I’m just simply grateful for everything we have gone for a long time.
The going gets tough. Expectation ruins our relationship.
Giving up may not be an option but in need for immediate attention, it cures brokeness. It might be the answer to a long seasonable quest.The scars that it leaves is like you tripping and falling to the ground. Seeing your legs wounded and hurt, it only makes you realize that pain demands to be felt. Yet you must remember too that it will get harmless and powerless in span of time.
We fought hardly against our on and off relationship. I know holding onto relationship doesn’t make sounds like a success. I do not confuse longevity with a job well done. And with us, it’s far from perfection yet a job well done indeed.
This long term relationship that ended does hold a remarkable opportunities for mutual growth, mutual expression, and mutual fulfillment of oneself- its own reward I will reap very soon.
May you find more happiness along the way,
Your ex-bestfriend
THE SECRET OF SUCCESSFUL RELATIONSHIP
“Conversation With God” by Neale Donald Walsch has an important lesson to share about relationship.
This lesson, I presumably thought every couple must know should be instilled in hearts and executed in action.
Most people enter into relationships with an eye toward what they can get out of their girlfriend/boyfriend, rather than what they can put into them. The purpose of a relationship is to decide what part of yourself you’d like to see “show up,” not what part of another you can capture and hold.
It is very romantic to say that you were “nothing” until that special other came along, but it is not true. Worse, it puts an incredible pressure on the other to be all sorts of things he or she is not. When human love relationships fail (relationships never truly fail, except in the strictly human sense that they did not produce what you want), they fail because they were entered into for the wrong reason.
Do not believe in courting. Boys type girls. Boys will show good attitude towards girls (or vice versa). Boys will showcase any good points they possess to make girls fall for him.
In courting stage, boy shows off how good his personality is, how someone adoring like him will fall for you.
The lady gave her sweetest “YES” to you. The relationship goes on smoothly until BF strucked with the idea that he lost his true self.
Not wanting to “let you down,” they try very hard to be and do these things until they cannot anymore. They can no longer complete your picture of them. They can no longer fill the roles to which they have been assigned. Resentment builds. Anger follows.
He becomes aware that a lot of things has changed.
And you girls, you fall on pit. You fall on the belief that the guy is truly, madly, deeply flaunt his identity. He then tried every inch to win back the portion of his life before he jumped into relationship.
In the long run, he keeps on finding the missing pieces of who he was before.
The girl, on the other hand, realized that there’s something new about his boy. He wasn’t the same man who almost ignores all her texts and calls. He was not the lad who goes to party without caring to send a message.
The girl died in “expecting” more for his boy. These “expectations” came from boy’s treatment during the time they were in fresh romance starting to bloom.
Then the guy went on to reveal who he was before there came the word “US”. And then, he shows off his true identity. The girl was in shock, making her self believe that the guy doesn’t love him anymore because he has “changed.”
The end of the love story.
Do not believe in courting stage. Have the strong foundation. Do not expect.
This indeed the greatest rule everyone must look upon yet neglected because we act too selfish. If not all, many do this. But what actually right is..
“Look to see what you are being, doing, and having in any given moment, not what’s going on with another.”
You gain a life before your partner enters. Do not say he/she completes you. You are wholly complete dude. That person came so you can express your completeness with him/her. Do not expect but see what you can do for that person. Do not ask what he/she has done for you in the course of time. It’s not a list of debts someone must pay in return.
The problem is so basic, so simple, and yet so tragically misunderstood: your grandest dream, your highest idea, and your fondest hope has had to do with your beloved other rather than your beloved Self. The test of your relationships has had to do with how well the other lived up to your ideas, and how well you saw yourself living up to his or hers. Yet the only true test has to do with how well you live up to yours.
Relationships are sacred because they provide life’s grandest opportunity—indeed, its only opportunity—to create and produce the experience of your highest conceptualization of Self. Relationships fail when you see them as life’s grandest opportunity to create and produce the experience of your highest conceptualization of another.
Let each person in relationship worry about Self—what Self is being, doing, and having; what Self is wanting, asking, giving; what Self is seeking, creating, experiencing, and all relationships would magnificently serve their purpose—and their participants!
Let each person in relationship worry not about the other, but only, only, only about Self.
This seems a strange teaching, for you have been told that in the highest form of relationship, one worries only about the other. Yet I tell you this: your focus upon the other—your obsession with the other—is what causes relationships to fail.
What is the other being? What is the other doing? What is the other having? What is the other saying? Wanting? Demanding? What is the other thinking? Expecting? Planning?
“Never do anything in relationship out of a sense of obligation. Do whatever you do out of a sense of the glorious opportunity your relationship affords you to decide, and to be, Who You Really Are.”
Be true to your partner. Reveal your own distinctiveness. Give love and expect not in return. Love isn’t supposed to be a business where someone expects major in return.
If this happens in your relationship , it has begun on a very good note. It’s gotten off on the right foot, baby. Don’t be left behind. Follow this and see if this might work for you.
