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3. Look at your own Facebook behavior.
A study showed that the people most likely to be unfriended were the ones who committed some of Facebook’s “sins.” We’re talking about those who make rude comments to people they aren’t even close to, post TMI (too much information), make Facebook their own personal diary, and the like. If you’re the type of person who has to update your timeline with everything that happened in your day (like what you ate for breakfast, what your boss said to you, what shoes you’re wearing, etc.), then it’s no wonder people don’t want you on their newsfeeds anymore. Here’s a tip if you want to know if you’re an annoying poster or not: look at you number of likes. If you’e got a thousand friends and less than 5 or even zero likes on your posts, then you’re not posting the stuff they want to see. There’a a like button for a reason, you know. On the other hand, if you can’t tell if your posts are the problem, ask a good friend to be honest with you to see if your Facebook behavior needs to change.
4. Try to figure out what caused the rift and then try to repair it.
If a family member or a very good friend has severed ties with you, make some effort to reach out to that person. Try to find out the reason why the unfriending took place and try to make amends. Don’t rely on just social media to repair the damages, though. If this family member or close friend is nearby, make a little effort to speak to him or her personally to straighten things out. And if the relationship is truly broken, then you’ll just have to accept it and hope for the best. Who knows? You might mend things in the future so don’t burn your bridges either.
5. Don’t stalk those who unfriended you.
Don’t obsess about finding out what’s going on with your former friend’s life. Sure, you’ll be curious at some point. You’ll want to know, “What’s that person up to now? What’s he hiding from me?” But take our word, don’t stoop down to stalker level and even go as far as creating a new Facebook account just to add that person and see what he posts. If your rift is a temporary one, take the higher and more dignified approach of retreating into the background. The other person may very well re-establish ties with you. Just like trying to repair the friendship, don’t push it. Let fate and an easing of tensions take its course and if it’s meant to be, the relationship will resume in its own time.
Rejection is never easy. It can make you doubt yourself as a person and make you go crazy trying to figure where you went wrong. The next time you see that “Add as Friend” button on a former Facebook friend’s page, don’t fret, take a deep breath, and read these 5 tips. Focus on making real friends and real friendships instead of virtual ones.
