Rhelyn Harder
- Robert dela Cruz Mendoza reminisces about their 15-year long relationship
- It was a case of love at first sight
- Marriage is not a priority for them. What is most important is their child
A netizen named Robert Dela Cruz Mendoza shared his one-of-a-kind LGBTQ love story on social media. He described his 15-year long relationship like a “good gay meets bad gay” situation, where one is a party boy and the other a friendly boy with no vices.
Their love story began when Robert sent a message to a television program to which he immediately received a reply through a text message. He decided to meet the texter, but then three people showed up at his house.
“Nag try akong mag message nun sa tv tapos biglang may nagtxt agad sa akin. Then nakikipag meet sa akin agad. Nag ok agad ako pero ang usapan namin nung kausap ko is sya lang magisa. Then dumating kayo 3 sa bahay.”
His partner wasn’t the one who first texted him, but he was of the three who went to his house. His partner apparently fell in love with him at first sight and asked for his number.
“Hindi ikaw ang nagtxt sa akin si mamu. Pero nung nakita mo ko eh na LOVE AT FIRST SIGHT KA AGAD. hehehheh… then kinuha mo yng phone # ko tapos tinawagan mo ko agad2 at nagpakilala na ikaw yng naka white shirt.”
For then on, they called each other every day and started dating. He even introduced him to his family and his mother who didn’t even know he was gay.
“Nalaman lang nya kasi nagaway tayo tapos hinabol mo ko tapos tinaguan kita at hindi mo ko nakita. Akala ko yun na talaga yung last na pagkikita natin. Pero sumulpot ka sa bahay namin para kausapin ako at kuhain ulit ang loob ko.”
He wanted to earn a lot of money, so one day he decided to work abroad though he knew that leaving his partner behind would hurt him.
“One day nagdecide akong pumunta ng ibang bansa para dun na lng ako mag work. Kasi feeling ko nandun ang ikakayaman ko kahit masakit sa akin na iwanan ka. Pero ending umalis ako ng nagiiyakan tayo.”
Since doesn’t believe in long distance relationship or LDR, Robert asked him to follow him to UAE. He even threatened his partner that if the latter does not go to UAE then they should break up. After four months, they were together again.
“If hindi ka pupunta ng UAE at hindi ka susunod eh makikipaghiwalay na ko. Pero still dahil sa sobrang in-love na in-love ka sa akin after 4months sinikap mong makapunta sa UAE para magkita ulit tayo at magsama.”
Their situation in UAE was not that easy so they decided to go back to the Philippines to look for jobs. They agreed that his partner would work while he stayed at home for five years.
“Nung nandto na tayo sa pilipinas, Ikaw lang naman ang nag work kasi sabi mo bubuhayin mo ko at sa bahay lang ako. Ang batla sunod sunuran kaya di nag work siguro mga 5 years din akong di nag work.”
They got into a huge fight that sent Robert packing and leaving the home they shared. It took an intervention from their parents for them to finally reconcile.
“Infairness nakita ko yung malaking pagbabago sayo simula nung nangyari yun. Siguro na-realize mo kung gaano kalaki ang mawawala syo kapag pinabayaan mo.”
Robert said that following his mother’s request that they reconcile was a good decision, especially when their son came in their life.
“Anyway it’s a good decision na sumunod ako kay nanay. Kasi nagka-angel tayo si (name withheld) na sobrang akala mo eh ako ang nagluwal. Tapos ikaw naman napaka protective mo sa kanya.”
Celebrating their 15 years anniversary as a couple, he wished that their relationship will still last even longer.
“Pero hindi ang sinasagot ko na lang wala sa priority namin ang ikasal kasi mas focus kami sa bata. Papel lang naman yang kasal at gastos lang. Tapos baka mamaya kung kailan tayo kinasal eh tsaka naman tayo maghihiwalay. Kaya kalma na lang muna yung ganito.”
Lastly, he thanked the Lord for letting him meet someone who would patiently love him.
“I LOVE YOU SO MUCH DAD. thank you LORD kasi nakatagpo ako ng magtitiyaga sa akin pero di ka naman lugi sa akin kasi gandara park na tapos masarap pa. Echoooosssss!”
